I didn't expect it would make a ripple, but it did. And this younger friend, same age as my daughter, continues to have issues about her former boyfriend. He's a manipulator, but she is drawn in.
I listen, try to comfort, always tell her to move on, to get over it.
I have mentioned this to my daughter. She has a good head on her shoulders. I expected some sympathy from her for my friend, but I got a lecture from her instead about how long this has been going on and how many times I've mentioned it!
So why does it hurt to have my own kid tell me, first, that I goofed in bringing over someone unannounced and then follow that up by telling me that I'm the one who should quit repeating my own useless behaviors?
Would the same remarks have made even a ripple coming from a non-related friend? Hmmm.
Well, before telling me to quit helping people who don't help themselves, she DID start by saying that I have a big heart ....
Maybe what I need to quit doing is mentioning other people's problems to her.
Or quit trying to help people who won't help themselves?
That girl of mine is pretty savvy.
